I read an article the other day that said that we as women need to shift our mindset and evolve from our thinking that taking a 20 minute bath is 'me time'. The more I thought about it, the more I agreed, and the effect on my mindset, and even my 2017 goals, has been fundamental.
I keep a little list of 'me time' ideas in the back of my diary. Whenever I think of something that would make a nice treat, I add it on. Whenever I feel a little low, I refer to it and try something from the list to lift my spirits. A lovely warm seaweed soak in the bath happened to be the first idea on there but the article I read really got me thinking: don't I deserve more in the way of 'me time'?
Don't get me wrong, a bath is a fantastic way to relax and unwind, and I firmly believe that the 'little things' can make a huge difference to your mood and wellbeing: a hot cup of tea, a strong gust of salty sea air, closing your eyes and breathing in bright sunshine... but the shift I've made in my new way of thinking is that 'me time' shouldn't be about a brief moment of peace in an otherwise overloaded schedule. We're worth more than a weekly bath. 'Me time' should be about true time you dedicate to your passions: time you take to find inner calm, not outer cleanliness. After all, aren't you your life's work?
This New Year I started reading 'The Universe Has Your Back' by Gabrielle Bernstein and she put forward a similar idea. The notion that the time we spend on ourselves should be a time to look within, to heal old wounds, to be honest about our fears, to shift our mindset and to pursue happiness. And we can't do that mindlessly.
So how do we apply this practically? A bath is so simple, and we can reflect whilst in the tub can't we? Yes and no. My theory is that we should keep the weekly baths (if nothing else it's a bit of peace and quiet from the world!) but this year I'm trying to add in some 'me time' that really does centre on me. Some mindful 'me time'. It's a lifelong project but every journey starts with a single step, and tonight I'm going along to a guided meditation session. I've tried to introduce meditation into my life with apps at home, but the reality is that I put the audio on to fall asleep. There's no inner calm. There's no soul searching. And there's certainly no pursuit of happiness. So instead of a detox soak, I'm using my 'me time' to learn how to meditate properly. And I think it's time I update that list in my diary...